Monday, June 29, 2009

Guys are hopeless

Girls are complicated.

Their thoughts. Their mind. Their actions.

I'm not sure what they are thinking at most of the times. Zero knowledge.

I want to relate this post to my past experience. A bad one.

Why guys got jealous? And why some guy don't?
I was often blamed, that I'm very possesive, controlling and [hmm] over-sensitive. To be very true here, I'm uncomfortable with guys kept having 'physical contact' with girls. Mainly, because I think guys should have certain respect to the girls and respect oneself as a guy either. Somehow, I was called closed minded.

Take this scenario as an example:
During one of the days, a group of close friends are having a gathering at night. Those usual, small gathering among few close friends, for a pillow talk session. [Yeap] There were boys and girls as well. Probably around a 30minutes talk later, one of the guy started to gave massage to one of the girls. To be more specific, foot massage. And a while later, the girl lied facing down, and the guy started to massage the back.
Thoughts:
[Hmm] For those which you call yourself 'open-minded', yea, this might not seem to be anything wrong. Furthermore, the girl allowed the guy to do the massage, don't she. As yeah, I almost forgotten, they are all close friends. So, what's wrong with it?
There's no such things as I massage her as a friend. [wth] It's only what I call, taking advantage. You can go massage your sister or your mom, I do not care. But touching some other girls, is something pretty disturbing in a way. You may say, "hey, they do it in overseas.". Yea, it's overseas, its their culture, their norm. In Malaysia, we don't do that, living in Malaysia, respect girls as for what they are. [God damn it, hate those type of guys.]

To relate me in the scenario is, the girl was someone I liked before. And the guy was someone who knew me pretty well and knew I like her. And yet, doing it in front of me, is something pretty disturbing and upset me. After sharing the story here, I would like to reconsider calling myself that I am jealous, which I think again, it was just something which pissed me off.

Girls, guys know guys better. You think guys are so innocent and good that they want to massage for you? Why not massage a guy? It's just purely taking advantage.

Guys and girls do still need to keep a certain distance, and a certain degree of respect. However, it's a whole new different aspect if the girl and the guy have some sparks going on. I can't comment much on that, but yet, still need to keep a certain behaviour and not going over-doing things.

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*This is just my thoughts, my views, my believes. If any of my readers there do have any opinions, I would be glad to hear. [fug those asshole guys anyway, thinking about them, pissing me off again]

10 comments:

lunz said...

agree agree...
i also always suspect isn i close-minded...
i cant accept those type thing too...
even myself touch tiok gul hand ad panic,them massage leh...
touching their body...swt lo.

b4 i olso got c tiok boy touch my x...
i reli JEALOUS...

haiz, boy is like tis de la.

yuna said...

I hardly think girls are that ignorant / innocent as well to think that some guys do it with no 'other intentions'... especially someone that age.

I would like to listen to girl's comments on this as well.

Zhiqin said...

to Lunz:
When you get jealous, ur x say you close minded and controlling pulak. over-sensitive. wth...
when you ask her to be becarefull, she say you say all her guys friends are bad.fug nia.

Zhiqin said...

to yuna:
yea...maybe you're true...but, well then those girls just want some touch without bonds then.
Or either, they are uncomfortable, yet to shy to say it out.

Lex said...

Em, first of all, YEA 1st post by ME! in regards to the topic, I feel that nowdays girls like to be pampered in every way possible. So if there a person is willing and trustworthy enough, my guess is that she will just enjoy it. No offence to anyone, but girls are as demanding as guys nowdays in every way. So, i would guess at the end of the day, is amount of trust and respect you have differentiate you from other.

P.S. Life is too short to get frustrated over small matters.

C.V said...

You are definitely a true guy!
I think there need to be a certain respect in between two sexes.

Lynda said...

Im glad u're still the nice guy i thought u were, especially after reading your post about change (which i also think is not necessarily a bad thing) :P

But yea, i do agree that the girl knows. it's probably a mutual thing. so don't get too worked up yes? ;)

take care Albert!

Zhiqin said...

hmm, haha, thanks a lot Lynda for your views. yea, probably its a mutual thing, girls really don't mind? Or is it a influence of a different culture?
Well, in certain situation, its all about the intention.

kahyan said...

We are all m'sian and live in a conservative society...There is nothing wrong calling yourself close-minded... Many of us thinks that the word "close minded" means bad and "open minded" is good? But is it true? Well, I disagree !

For the girl and guy situation, yes, i think the guy should have some certain degree of respect for the girl (with or without the sparks). But, the girl is not even respecting herself.. To be exposed like that ! Obviously to me, she is letting the guy to take advantage of her and infront of other people..!

I agree with lex that life's to short to be frustated.. Dont be too worked out, yea.. but, its a topic that should be brought forward...

Zhiqin said...

ehh, didnt expect to hear from you, kah yan :-) Thanks for your opinion, we do really need some opinions from a girl view.
I always thought why am I always the one having different thinking with others, which people hardly accept. But at least, I know now that there's people do agree on my thoughts. Thanks again kahyan.